Why Women "Run" From NICE Guys

I have a lot of guys write me (David DeAngelo) to say, "I know
this girl who's beautiful and smart and
attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
everything in common, and we get along
perfectly... but she says that she's just not
attracted to me..."

Have you ever noticed that:

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
to be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more
she often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?

What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be
"nice" to girls?

Here's the deal: Women aren't usually
romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're
not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to
learn how to attract women with your personality.

And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.

A while back, I mentioned an interesting book
that was written about the band Motley Crue.
Remember those guys?

Well, the book is called "The Dirt: Confessions
of the World's Most Notorious Rock Band." As I
read through that book, I realized that these guys
have dated more of the world's most attractive
women than anyone (except maybe Hugh Hefner).

In case you didn't know, the guys in Motley
Crue are not very "nice." They're famous for
taking every drug known to man, beating their
women, fighting, and having a lot of people die
around them.

Now, the first thing most guys say is, "Yeah,
but they're rich and famous..."

And this is true, they are rich and famous.
But, and it's a BIG ONE... all of the women that
they have dated, married, and beaten up are
RICH AND FAMOUS TOO!

These are supermodels and playmates of the year
and such. These women can date whoever they want.
Tommy Lee was MARRIED to both Heather Locklear AND
Pamela Anderson... remember?

These women didn't need Tommy Lee for his money
or his fame... they're dating these guys for some
OTHER REASON!

Are you with me on this?

So what's going on here? And more importantly,
how can you use this information to be more
successful with women and dating?

First of all, don't go out and start taking
drugs and beating up your dates. I mean, I know
that an occasional woman will drive a man to
drink, but I don't recommend going "Motley Crue"
on a girl... lol.

The first chapter of my book "Double Your
Dating" is called "Women Don't Make Sense." Here's
what I mean...

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Onward...

I believe:

1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about
whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if
he has romantic potential, and once her decision
is made, it's probably going to stay made.

2) These decisions are made "subconsciously,"
meaning that women make all of them quickly and at
a "gut level."

3) If you know how, you can make her feel
attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.

4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and
start acting, well... something else... and I
don't mean "not nice."

So what DOES attract women? And how do you do
it exactly?

Good questions...

At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities:
Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.

Before I talk about each, I first have to
remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE.
Remember that.

Here's a good metaphor: Remember when you
learned to drive? It all made sense... turn the
wheel left and go left, turn it right and go
right...

But do you remember when you learned to back
up? Backing up was a whole new game. Everything
that used to work now works in a different way. At
first you feel disoriented. Turn the wheel left
and go right... and you have to learn how to
maneuver with the back wheels staying straight
while the front wheels turn... all with your head
turned around.

For most people, this takes some time and
practice. But once you "get it" then you can do it
anytime you want.

Well, women are very similar. At first it's
very confusing. You have to try things that don't
seem to make sense. But once you get the hang of
it, then you see how it works and can make it
work... just like backing up a car.

As much as many women would hate to admit it,
there's something very attractive about a man who
is just a little more confident than he should be.
And if you combine this with the right amount of
humor, you have a magic combination that will
charm almost any woman.

Here are a few ways to use this idea:

1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about
something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long
as you do it early on. For instance, you might
say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you
carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those are some
pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall
without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that
you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a
fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say
something FUNNY. If you don't know how to be
funny, get a book on it. The test: If she's not
laughing, then it wasn't funny!

2) Look around at other things and seem kind of
pre-occupied when you first start talking to her.
Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached
tone. You want to sound like you're talking to
your best friend. Attractive women are approached
all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when
you look like you've just met Madonna. This "just
a little too confident" attitude is very
attractive to women... especially when it's
combined with humor.

3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love
to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and
"Where do you live?" and "Tell me about your
family." Answer with funny answers, and don't give
her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an
engineer" or "I'm a stock broker." BORING,BORING.
If she asks what you do... say, "Oh, funny you
should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model...
What do you do?..." (This is especially funny if
it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get
it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.

It's important to remember that I'm not telling
you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm
telling you to start being confident, funny, and
mysterious.

If this is starting to make sense to you, and
you'd like to learn more about the art of
communicating with a woman on a "sexual" level,
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away from being a "nice guy" who never gets
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I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

Finally

(transcribed from the song "Love of My Life")

There are so many different kinds of love and mostly I have tried them all. But just when I’m feeling secure with one, my heart’s strings break, and I begin to fall … the hard and painful fall.

So I picked up my feelings and put them away, thinking no one could ever care. But then they (my Kingkang and my God) moved in to that place in my heart, they understood and now I know they’re always there. Now they come over me, released my soul and set it free. They will always be.

I had longed for love that was perfectly pure, and the bond that was equally strong. So I went through the emotions a thousand times but what I thought was love turned out to be all wrong.

Then they showed me how they could be everything. My wife, my maker, my friend and I’ve never been loved like this before. Letting me know we want each other and would do anything what it takes for us to be closer making the sea not cruel anymore.

Finally!

Define "No Commitment."

When used in a relationship, It could mean: no trust. i don’t want responsibility. i want to be free. no deal. no demands. no boundaries. open for dates. i don’t see a future with you. i’m afraid to love and be hurt again. you’re not rich. you’re not beautiful. or it could also mean, "we-have-a-relationship-when-we-are-together-but-not-when-we-are-away".

It goes on and on and on. when people asked you who she is to you or who he is to you … you could say "a friend" – with unlimited benefits?

I was in this situation BEFORE. my reason? i don’t see a future with her but she’s fun to be with. and that made me a jerk. perhaps, even selfish.
now, is it payback time? is this what they called "karma?"

maybe.

or maybe, it’s just so complicated.

i don’t know. for i haven’t heard anything assuring or i’m just missing and messing it all up.

but there WERE (or are?) actions that can suffice what can’t be heard (or read).

but how would you do that with distance?

risky.

no strings-attached. does that mean you’re open for dates and suitors?

if NO, do you tell people "i’m attached" or you rather present yourself as available for dates?

i wanted to tell the world "i’m attached". and i’m happy with it.

but for me, doesn’t it sound like illusionary, daydreaming, fantasizing? unreal?

maybe.

one sees no extra mile from the other. or maybe, the other one needs not to put those extra miles because of her/his greater faith.

but are you really doing some extra miles?

i know you can do better than that.

is a minute for every hour too much to give? no, not even the busiest. but that only works with heart full of the passion of doing it — regardless how horded your world could be.

if i can’t sense and feel it … and then there’s nothing.

should i always wait for every actions to show up?

and why do i keep asking when i know the answers?

i heard some answers but it’s not living with me everyday.

i don’t know, maybe all these thoughts …

COULD BE …

your thoughts too.

I REALLY DON’T KNOW. or just doesn’t see it the way the she wants to put it.

these doubts hurt.

you have doubts too, i heard.

but everything’s sounds easy out there for you, is it?

as you’ve said, it burdens you not.

so what do i have to keep going?

IMAGINATIONS?

Perhaps,of the past ACTIONS.

Or FAITH.

Love Chooses Me

A song goes, "you can never ask too much of love." That goes the same with giving. You can never give less or more of love. There’s no true or false love. Love per se should be enough. If it’s less it’s not love but anything else disguised as. What am I talking here?

It’s been quite a while. Love chooses us and not the other way around. It has been with me for long but those were the Philia and the Agape, and some with lust, I admit. But this time, it’s like … "Hi, thanks for choosing me. We’ve met again. I hope you would decide to mark me for good. You made me the cherry of your target and I will, with glad heart, I will widen it for you to have a lot of spaces to hit for more."

I will. I will. and I will.